Zen In The Den (create your love cave!)

Creating a sacred space for you and your lover to come together and celebrate your relationship is key to your relationship longevity, will have you wanting to spend time together alone, and will have others guessing what you are up to! 

It will also form part of you having mind blowing sex with your partner! 

If you normally use your bedroom as the place to talk about your finances, watch TV, have all of your arguments away from the kids, then how can you possibly expect to be having mind blowing sex in the same place?

The subconscious mind is extremely powerful. If you are generally in your bedroom doing things other than being intimate with each other, or sleeping, it will remind you of the other things you do. If, however, you are always in your bedroom feeling great, and have it as your pleasure zone, that is what your mind will lead you to think about. 

So, to make your bedroom Zen here are some tips for you:

• Do not discuss in any crucial family issues and concerns or past traumas in your bedroom. Any conversations like this are best done outside of the bedroom. Do that somewhere else. 
• Create an environment that you love being in. When you go into your bedroom make sure that everything around you is beautiful, clean, fresh, and inspiring. If you have lots of paperwork around, clothes all over the floor, week old sheets on the bed, you are not going to be able to get into the "zone" for intimacy.  The key here is to ask your partner for help and support when it comes to keeping the bedroom clean.
• Your bedroom is a sacred space, and is not the local hang out for your friends, or for your kids. Sure, they can snuggle every now and again, but your bedroom is your domain. At the very least you should be able to lock your bedroom door, so that when you are making love, you know you will not be interrupted. 
• When designing your bedroom, think of all the senses. Have candles and oils to satisfy your sense of smell and sight. For touch, include different fabrics that you can take advantage of, like a woolen rug on the floor. For sound, have access to beautiful soft music you can put on while you are making love. And for taste, well, I will leave that one to your imagination! 
• Have fun OFTEN! Having your bedroom set up as your haven will mean you have the chance to really appreciate each other, and to love your space. The more time you spend intimately with your lover, the healthier, sexier and happier you will be!